Our children didn't follow a traditional straight line, and they still don't. In their current lives as fathers, they eschew much of cultural dogma, and stand their ground with definite ideas and principles. We didn't trace a straight line for them, so we couldn't expect them to follow one. Yes, it is hard to leave them be when they face the adult world threshold after high school. One has to let go, take a leap of faith, trust that you have done your best, and hope they figure it out successfully their own.
In today's America a new mother not only has to navigate lists of potential baby names, top-rated carseats and strollers, choose between bottle or breast, and make a place in her home for a new little person, but she needs to dig heavily into her finances to accomplish that. If her employer doesn't offer paid maternity leave, she must decide how long she can stay home with the baby, then how much childcare will cost when she returns.