[vc_row][vc_column width=”2/3″][vc_single_image image=”1504″ img_size=”full” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_border” css=”.vc_custom_1475125641648{border-top-width: 10px !important;border-right-width: 10px !important;border-bottom-width: 10px !important;border-left-width: 10px !important;}”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1475105311762{padding-top: 20px !important;padding-right: 20px !important;padding-bottom: 20px !important;padding-left: 20px !important;background-color: #f6f6f6 !important;}”]Dear Emma,

I was recently laid off from my corporate job of 10 years, and am being very frugal while I look for another position. In the meantime, my adult daughter says I should just live with her. She is married and has two young children. Should I give up my home? At 57, I’ve always been financially independent and I’m a bit offended, though I recognize her concern.

– Living In Limbo


Dear Living in Limbo,

Hmmm, two young children, huh? Free babysitting? Does she want you to trade your independence so she can have a little more free time? Clearly, I’m a bit cynical, but the offer – as seen from her side – might feel like a win-win situation for both of you, offering you a financial boost and allowing you to have a closer relationship with your grandchildren while giving her a bit of freedom. It does seem like she hasn’t spoken to any friends whose mothers or mothers-in-law have moved in “temporarily”.

A good friend of mine moved in to help out her daughter and save some money and left after a month with the realization that she really didn’t like her grandchildren after all. If you are broke, and willing to risk major relationship issues reemerging—she was a teenager once, I’m assuming—go for it. Just set clear limits and boundaries. On the other hand, she may just be trying to get you moving on your job search.

– Emma

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