My husband I were recently married and we adore each other. There is just one tiny problem – he also adores his dog, Maggie. Maggie is well-behaved, but she sheds like crazy. I confess I knew Maggie shed before we were married. But, I have OCD and had no idea that I would have large, disgusting clumps of dog hair all over my house. It’s just so much hair. I vacuum every day and each time the hair fills the bag.
I don’t know how to talk to my husband about this. He doesn’t see this as a big deal, but it is really making me uncomfortable in my home. Should I complain or just suck it up like a big girl?
– Dog Hair Blues
Dear Dog Hair Blues,
I can certainly understand why you’re uncomfortable with the constant presence of dog hair in your home, as I myself like to have clean and tidy surroundings at all times.
Your husband’s love for this dog is also apparent, so this makes the issue somewhat tricky, as love is often blind to faults, whether they be large or small.
There may be some simple ways to minimize the amount of dog hair that accumulates. Perhaps the services of a dog groomer could be availed? Short cuts can be quite fashionable and are certainly much cooler in the summer, when I believe most dogs tend to shed more. Another alternative might be to use an automated vacuum cleaner, like a Roomba. These little robots are quite sophisticated these days and would be very helpful in reducing the time it’s taking you to vacuum every day.
May I also suggest that by calling this a “tiny problem”, you may be subconsciously trying to minimize the problem in order to minimize the conflict. However, if you have been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, this is not a tiny issue for you.
OCD is usually an unconscious attempt to control something inside yourself. However, sometimes people around you can themselves feel as if you are trying to control them by your own efforts to control your behaviors and environment. This can be a difficult thing to manage and process, so I highly recommend that if the issue persists, that you speak to a therapist who specializes in this particular disorder and who can help you come to terms with this situation.
It may take some time, so please be patient and kind in the meantime to both yourself and your husband, who I’m sure loves you as well as Maggie the dog.
– Warmest regards, Emma